Dil Ko Tumse Pyaar Hua 15th February 2025 Written Episode, Written Update on TellyUpdates.com Deepika urges Chirag not to cheat on his test, wanting him to prove his true efforts. She then leaves for her flower delivery job. Later, when she returns home, she calls for her kids and is surprised to see Chirag. He [...]
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DEAR DEIDRE: THIS morning my partner looked really upset.
When I asked why, he said I had been masturbating in my sleep. He is convinced I was fantasising about another man. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
In fact, I’ve lost all interest in sex, asleep or awake. I’m even scared we’re going to split up because of it.
I’m 30. My fiancé and I have been in a loving, passionate relationship for seven years.
At first, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Our sex life was non-stop. I often had multiple orgasms, and never turned him down.
Last year I had health problems. My GP prescribed several medications and an antidepressant.
Mentally, I feel much better, but my libido has faded away.
I no longer want sex at all. I certainly don’t have raunchy dreams.
What could be going on, and can I fix this?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Masturbating in your sleep is called sexsomnia. It’s rare, but it can occur when you’re stressed or under the influence of drink or drugs, including sleeping pills.
People experiencing sexsomnia can touch themselves in their sleep, thrust their hips, or try to have sex with their partner.
Reassure your partner that you’re not dreaming of someone else.
And open up about your reduced sex drive. You can get through this together.
The first step is to talk to your doctor, because it is likely your dreams and dampened desire are both side-effects of your new medications.
Many meds (including weight-loss injections, blood-pressure pills and antidepressants) can cause vivid dreams, and some can reduce libido too.
SSRI antidepressants in particular have been shown to affect sexual enjoyment in some patients.
My support pack Reviving A Woman’s Sex Drive explains more about this and what can help.
Don’t stop taking your pills but do talk to your GP as soon as you can. Be open about your night-time behaviour.
There’s a good chance they can swap you to medications that won’t have these side effects.
Then you can get back to enjoying a satisfying sex life with your fiancé.
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DEAR DEIDRE: I RUBBED my revenge body in my ex’s face a bit too hard, and now I’m pregnant.
When we first got together he loved my figure and would undress me like he was unwrapping his favourite treat.
But I put on weight then caught him cheating so dumped him — and got fit and trim.
I’m 23 and he’s 29.
When I first met him three years ago, I was naturally slim and toned.
We’d make love two or three times a day.
After two years, we moved in together and my normal healthy diet flew out of the window. I started eating what he ate — takeaways, pizza, crisps.
But while he burned off the calories in the gym and in his job as a carpenter, I worked from home. As my nice clothes started getting clingy, so did I.
I was worried about what he was up to. But the more I chased him, the more distant he became.
He began staying out late, saying he was at the gym, coming home when I was asleep.
So one evening I followed him to the gym. In the car park, I caught him with a gorgeous, slim woman. I dumped him on the spot.
I moved back to my mum’s. As I was so upset, my appetite vanished and the weight fell off me.
To improve my mental health, I also started running. Soon I looked and felt much better.
Just as I was starting to feel confident again, my ex told me it was all over with the other woman, and begged me to meet for a drink. I poured myself into my tightest, tiniest dress.
Unfortunately I got carried away and showed off too much. Now I’m expecting a baby.
My ex is thrilled. He wants me to move back so we can be a family. But I’m worried history will repeat itself.
DEIDRE SAYS: When we split up from a partner, many people undergo a physical transformation. External changes, like losing weight or a new haircut, are ways of projecting a more positive, confident outlook.
It will feel good to have your ex’s attention again, but don’t rush back into a relationship with him, or sign up to moving back in or being a family.
Ask yourself what you want. If you decide to go ahead and be a parent, that doesn’t mean you have to play happy families straight away.
Your ex will be obliged to provide financially for your child and it would be ideal if he’s involved in their life, but ensure you want a relationship with him for the right reasons – not just because he’s pushing for it.
My support packs Unplanned Pregnancy and How Counselling Can Help will give you.
DEAR DEIDRE: A COLLEAGUE at my new job played a horrible prank on me.
Everyone says I need to calm down about it but I’m fuming and can’t get over it.
I’m a 41-year-old accountant. Recently I was moved to a different office at work.
During my first week, I got a phone call from a withheld number.
A very serious voice said they were calling from HR because I was under investigation for fraud.
I was told to clear my desk, and that security was on their way to escort me out of the building.
In a panic, I rang my manager. She said she would look into it.
Gathering my bag and coat, I walked out of my office expecting to see security guards waiting for me, but instead I found a young colleague crying with laughter.
He had made the call as a joke. My manager read him the riot act and he apologised to me. So everyone assumes that’s the end of it. But I can’t move on.
I feel stressed just walking into the office.
When I see this prankster colleague, my blood pressure explodes. I don’t think they appreciate the trouble I could have caused about this.
That call was threatening and malicious and I would have been well within my rights to involve the police.
I’ve opened up to a few co-workers I trust and all they’ve said is the young lad doesn’t have a bad bone in his body. They told me it was meant as harmless fun, not to hurt me, and that I need to be an adult. I just can’t bring myself to forgive him.
DEIDRE SAYS: Forgiving your colleague doesn’t mean you have to see the funny side of his phone call.
Forgiveness isn’t about letting people off the hook. It’s letting go of something that upset you, and allowing yourself to move forwards with your life. We forgive people for our benefit, not theirs.
If you keep allowing this incident to eat away at you, you’ll stay stressed, have soaring blood pressure, and lose all your enjoyment in your job.
How will that help?
This prank backfired on your young colleague. Hopefully he has learned from his foolish behaviour.
I would draw a line under this and focus on building a great relationship with the rest of the team.
If this continues to get under your skin, talk it through with friends or people you trust outside of work or go back to your HR department.
DEAR DEIDRE: MY Mum believes she’s online best friends with a celebrity chef. She’s sent him loads of money and won’t believe it’s a scam.
She’s 75. She’s been a bit isolated since Dad died so we set her up with an iPad to stay in touch.
During a family FaceTime session last week, she ended the call because she said this famous cook was on the other line.
We learnt that he contacted Mum through social media a few months ago, and she sent him £2,000 to “help his restaurant”.
We’ve seen photos this person sent Mum and they are clearly AI-generated. Can we do anything? These deep-fake photos can fool almost anyone, especially the elderly and vulnerable.
DEIDRE SAYS: Online scams like this are becoming increasingly frequent. Report it to Action Fraud now.
You can file an online report to the police at actionfraud.police.uk (0300 123 2040).
Then tell your mum’s bank what has been going on. If you can’t reclaim the cash, the bank can stop any further payments.
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER applying for 500 jobs without success, I’m out of work, cash and hope.
I was made redundant last year. I’m 42.
Having never been unemployed, I expected to find a new job quickly. I was so confident, I blew all my redundancy money getting my teeth fixed abroad.
But I’ve got nothing to smile about now because I’m still unemployed a year later, and struggling to pay my bills. I get lots of interviews but I never hear back.
If you’re getting lots of interest, your CV is clearly in good shape. Things must be going wrong at the interview stage.
DEIDRE SAYS: Contact the HR team at the companies you interviewed with and ask them for feedback – they are usually happy to help.
You could also sign up with a recruitment agency, which should be able to improve your interview technique.
My support pack Help For Job Hunters has lots more information, plus advice on how you can keep your spirits up.
